How would your life be different if you no longer lived in fear? And what does it really mean to be free?
What if I were to tell you that everything you feared was merely a construct, a program, designed to do two things…
- Keep you playing small and not living out your fullest potential, AND/OR
- Force you to grow
I’m not talking about walking into a snake pit with one thousand venomous snakes. That threat and fear would be very real, especially if you were Indiana Jones! But – even he overcomes his fear of snakes and survives to see another day. And so can you.
What I’m talking about is the insidious fear that trickles through individuals and society as a whole. These fears include but are not limited to the fear of being seen and the fear of not being seen. The fear of saying the wrong thing, looking stupid, being humiliated, or not wearing the right clothes. The fear of not having the correct idealized body type, too many wrinkles, crooked teeth, a receding hairline, or doing work that people may deem as wrong or “weird”. The fear of your own strength and power and divinity, or the fear of your emotions like sadness, anger, disgust – even unbridled joy. Essentially, it’s a fear of unworthiness and unlovability that runs like a deep ocean current through our being.
So what happens when you shrink every time you feel afraid? The box gets smaller. That box you realized you were in when you woke up one day, keeps you playing safe and conforming to what you think others want of you. When you make a decision out of fear, that box closes in on you a little bit more. And in an effort to release some of the pressure and claustrophobia you feel, you numb out using any number of vices. Food, shopping, alcohol, sex, uninvited advice-giving, you get the picture. And the pressure to release the pressure is heightened during times of stress and uncertainty. Is it any wonder that if you stay in a job you hate or in an abusive relationship, that everything else spirals out of control?
So what’s happening when we feel too afraid to do the thing we really want to do?
We are paralyzed to take action because of the meaning we have attached to what might happen if we were to do what we really wanted to do. I’ll give you a couple of examples.
You see a cute or interesting person across the room and you’d like to strike up a conversation with them. You feel so compelled to do this you almost take the first step without even thinking – but then you stop yourself. What if they don’t want to talk to me? What if they’re actually very rude? What if their partner is somewhere nearby and then I get a call out for showing interest?
Another scenario – you’re starting a business online and you know you’ve got to start building up your online presence. But for some reason, you’re struggling with “finding the time” to post photos and videos (read, not taking action because you’re scared and blocked). You feel the hump of unworthiness and are unsure how to get over it. What could be on the other side of this hump? What does life actually look and feel like when I get there? What’s holding me back?
All of these reactions point to feelings of worthlessness, fear, judgment, and shame, and I’m here to enlighten you.
On the other side of unworthiness is your Pure Self. You, as joy, peace, love, light, dark, innocence, and purity embodied. Your divine essence, playing and dancing in the flow of life, not worrying about what may or may not happen. In this space of trust and flow, unworthiness cannot stand. It does not even come into question. Of course, you are worthy. You are divinity embodied.
Being fearless is merely living a life in which you have done enough inner work to know that everything that happens to you is happening for you, for your best and highest good. Being fearless means you have processed all your attachments to potential outcomes, and are doing the thing anyway.
Freedom is the same. True freedom is letting go of any and all attachments we carry in relation to our own identity. If we were to just be here, now, as a soul in a body on this magnificent planet with no other meaning attached, what would we do? What could we be?
So I ask you again… how would your life be different if you were fearless?
We are all being energetically supported now to do the things we’ve always wanted to do.
What do YOU want?
