Every single one of us deals with our deep unworthiness. And we do this in a variety of ways: perfectionism, people-pleasing, competitiveness, micromanaging, avoidance, narcissism, judgmentalism, projections, bullying, passive aggression, blah, blah, blah.
We can’t stand the thought of not having value, of not being important, of not mattering. And we go to great lengths to try to avoid, distract ourselves, and fight our unworthiness. It’s just a human way of dealing with it.
Our perceived lack of value causes us to engage with other people for their energy as an attempt to try to get more value, to deal with our unworthiness. This creates a dynamic that is like a tug-of-war for the other’s energy to feel more valuable.
For example, when we are disrespected and taken for granted, we feel unimportant and unworthy. Meanwhile, the reason the person is disrespecting us and taking us for granted is that they are projecting their own lack of value onto us because they don’t want to feel unimportant.
Generally speaking, we react and project back or close down because of the disrespect. This becomes our attempt to get energy from the one who has disrespected us. You get the picture.
How do we stop this vicious cycle and create value?
First, we must recognize that though we feel unimportant and unworthy, that is only our human self that we came here to heal. In reality, we have infinite value and are connected to everything and everyone as limitless beings.
We are pure LOVE in human bodies. So, we must begin to act from our limitless nature, which is Love.
In order to shift the dynamic of feeling unworthy, we must allow our older and wiser Highest Self, which is Love, to take charge.
When we as Divine beings of infinite value begin to care for and love ourselves, we surrender our old limiting beliefs of “I’m not enough”, and “I don’t have enough”, which comes from I’m not enough. We trust our Highest Selves to bring us to healing, happiness, flowing in our limitless value and power.
Getting back to the idea of creating value, as we are course-correcting away from our unworthiness and into our unlimited value, we must be willing to shift how we heal ourselves away from the fear-based scarcity mentality of “I don’t have enough to invest in my healing.”
We cannot heal the issue of unworthiness from within the same scarcity mentality that it was created. When we say, “I don’t have enough to invest in my healing,” what we’re really saying is “I am not important enough to invest in my healing.”
When we are not willing to invest in ourselves, we cannot create value. When we are not willing to value the person that’s helping us come to healing, we cannot receive healing, and we don’t create value.
And on the flip side, when we say yes to investing in ourselves, we automatically position ourselves to receive and create value. We create a value cycle.
It’s a simple energy exchange. Money for healing. It’s no different than buying a car or paying for your groceries. You wouldn’t expect a car salesman or a grocery store to give you a car or your groceries for free or reduced-price because you didn’t value yourself enough to pay for these things. If it’s important for you to have a car or groceries, you just pay for it. It’s no different with your healing.
If a significant transformation is to be made, then the energy exchange must be significant. This is how we create a value cycle.
We cannot sidestep creating value by trying to get a quick fix or not investing in ourselves because it’s coming from a place of scarcity and unworthiness, which is what we’re trying to heal.
When it all boils down, your health and your happiness are the most important things. You could have everything, but if you don’t have your health and happiness, you cannot enjoy your life, and you will continue in your pain and misery.
You are important. You matter. Your health and happiness are why you came here. Happiness is your purpose. It is your Sovereign right.
You have to take inspired action if you expect to turn your life around.
You must be willing to love yourself if you expect to transform your life and to move into your health and happiness.
So many people that I talk to you say that when they have enough they’ll think about investing in themselves.
It doesn’t work that way. You have to want to be healed and to value yourself enough to invest your time, money, and energy if you expect to heal yourself.
Others say they must get approval of a partner before investing in themselves. Hello! That cycle of co-dependency, unworthiness, and devaluing is what we’re healing.
You must choose for yourself what you want instead of putting your life and power in the hands of someone who doesn’t see you or value you completely.
And when you do say yes to loving yourself, the Universe conspires to bring you into your unlimited worthiness and power.
It’s absolutely amazing!
