5 Ways Your Inner Skeptic Messes With Goal Setting and Achieving and What To Do About It
As our very wild year of 2020 comes to a close, business owners everywhere are marching into 2021 with a fresh set of new goals they want to achieve.
We all know that big goals, especially for business expansion can be super hard to stick with.
With most of us having to pivot or re-start our businesses to adjust to the Covid restrictions, 2021 ESPECIALLY is a year to stay loyal to your business goals.
If you don’t and let your Inner Skeptic win, you’ll run the risk of being delayed, distracted or derailed by this unconscious part of you and you may not reach your goals. Depending upon your unique situation, you may be out of business. We all know that if we have no goals for both personal and business needs, all your actions, inspirations, and tactics default to the model of the past, which keeps you stuck. This means in 3-5-10 years you’ll have the same income, work hours, and lack of freedom as you do today. So we need to set strong goals that support our future, AND we also have to know how to manage the Inner Skeptic Part of us whose entire job is to keep us from messing up.
Below are 5 ways your Inner Skeptic Messes with going after and achieving goals, especially large ones, and a very simple way for you to manage this very important part of your decision making.
1. The Inner Skeptic Beliefs: This is where your analytical mind has a hard time seeing how your goal could happen. You can become so overwhelmed, you may even give up before beginning. You may find yourself spinning in your head, or distracting yourself to avoid doing the very things that will make your business grow.
2. A belief or experience that something is in your way preventing you from moving forward… which triggers negative emotions like anger, frustration, or resentment which always energetically block goals from happening.
3. Then there are the “I don’t have what it takes” fears that can surface due to feelings and thoughts about a shortcoming YOU believe you have. You see faults or things missing in you that stand in the way of getting the success you really want, and it brings up emotions of not feeling good enough that effectively derails motivation and action.
4. Of course with a large leap goal of any kind, we worry about a lack of time or energy that prevents doing MORE very difficult to imagine. You may wonder, “How am I ever going to work that much harder when I’m already working far too much?” Lastly, this is something that you wouldn’t initially think is in your way.
5. Large Debt Balances: Debt is a huge energy drainer whose roots lay in unconscious levels of shame or blame.
The thought of paying it off and keeping it off can make you feel very overwhelmed, hopeless, and powerless.
When the energies of shame and blame are healed, magical freedom happens, doors open and money has a chance to Grace your life again.
Our Inner Skeptic also carries our wisdom, so you don’t ever want to completely get rid of her, but you do want to get her to let down her fearful guard, so you have the inner FREEDOM actually reach your goal.
This can be tough to do on your own, but possible with mindful awareness, boosting the connection of love you have for yourself with yourself, and then dialoguing with this part of you with sacred journaling, or EFT stream of consciousness tapping to bring her up to date with your new goal.
Here’s what I suggest to get started asking your Inner Skeptic to stand down, so you can integrate this protective part of you with the power of your True Self.
Your True Self is the soul quality parts of you that are here to love others and make a difference doing so.
1) After calling in Divine Assistance and leading with your heart, voice, acknowledge and accept the part of you resisting. I love to start off by thanking her for keeping me safe during really difficult or scary times and use real memories of my past to validate what she’s done for you. You can either journal this stream of consciousness conversation with yourself, or you can also voice it out loud and tap through the EFT points at the same. It’s also super helpful to acknowledge any traumas, betrayals, or hurtful events that she’s never been validated as having because once acknowledged and forgiven, she’s free and feels safe to let you expand past former levels of comfort.
2) Voice your new goal to her. Tell her how safe she’ll feel due to YOUR personal growth and the bad people or things that happened to make her distrustful are gone, healed, no longer matter. Let her know that your new goal will bring out Soul Quality feeling, so that not only will you be fulfilling your life purpose, it will feel beautiful and lead to the abundance your Soul truly wants for you
3) Say AND write the phrase, “I open to healing this conflict for my highest and best good”.
4) Now is the perfect time to let go of the resistant beliefs and behaviors. I guide my clients to do this by repeating: “letting go of… (fill in the blank) as many times as needed to feel complete. This can feel emotional, so be sure you hold steadfast your LOVE for her, so the emotions subside quickly. Or, stop and get some professional help.
5) Once complete, it’s time to journal in dialog with her(or tap in) how amazing it’s gonna feel with your new dreams and goals making a powerful difference in the world.
I like to make sure all bases are covered when shifting the subconscious like this, by saying:
“It’s possible to… (say your goal)”
“It’s safe to… (say your goal)”
“I’m willing to… (say your goal)”
“I deserve to… (say your goal)”
“It’s gonna be really different, but I’m sure living in this new way will feel natural quickly”
As you say or write them, feel for lingering resistances in your body and take the time to heal them.
Once you are done with this processing, and, depending upon the amount of resistance needed to be cleared, you should begin to notice subtle yet powerful shifts in the ease of completing business tasks that before felt like you were locked down and tied up. If your business required any kind of pivot or new offering in 2020, moving forward in 2021 will require even more strategic goal setting. Having your Inner Skeptic in alignment with your goals will help you have the inner freedom to complete them.
