I read an Instagram post that made my heart drop.
My friend’s wife, a young mother named Meredith, was diagnosed with liver cancer in her mid 30’s.
I was already on an obsessive mission to heal my own liver, motivated by chronic eczema on my arms and severe allergy symptoms which included wheezing, a sinus infection, and persistent night coughing. In my in-depth research, I learned that my symptoms were a result of a heavy-laden liver begging for help. Over a four-month period, I diligently cleansed the heavy metal toxins out of my liver by eliminating all radical fats (oils, etc.) and eating solely organic fruits and vegetables. At the time of this article, I am still working on cleansing my liver and having flare ups occur as a natural detoxifying experience, but I can report that some symptoms are already non-existent. Naturally, I became excited. I held valuable information that people in my life would be overjoyed about, especially Meredith to heal her liver cancer diagnosis. No more suffering, right?
In theory, yes.
But in reality, health is a personal and sensitive topic. Meredith doesn’t want to be told what to eat, what changes to make, and especially what I think is best for her. What I might believe was genuine care can spiral quickly into a strained and defensive situation for Meredith or any of my loved ones.
Still, don’t I have a responsibility to share if I hold Holy Grail information in my hands that could heal her liver tumor?
There is indeed great wisdom in sharing an invitation. But an invitation feels starkly different than advice, or worst of all: trying to wake her up to the “truth”. If I felt inspired to offer Meredith an invitation, I have found that the most effective way would include four essential parts.
THE INVITATION
1) Get myself into a space of non-attachment about the outcome
2) Ask, “Are you open to hearing what is working for me and you can try it on and see if it works for you, too?”
3) If there is a YES, offer the invitation, the information, or the resources.
4) Lovingly walk away from the topic trusting the invitation has been made
But what if you just know you’re “right”?
A younger version of me felt an immense responsibility to help people “get woke”. Now, I do not. I spend no time trying to wake up anyone, save anyone, or worry for anyone, especially because worrying for someone is not synonymous with caring for them.
Here are three reasons why I don’t try to wake you up, using Meredith’s story as my example:
- PEOPLE’S INNER GUIDANCE IS WORKING. I trust Meredith’s inner guidance. My own suffering health led me to seek out my deeper answers. Suffering wakes me up more than you ever could. I will do anything to make the suffering go away. What makes me believe Meredith is not on track for her perfect life blueprint with all the joys and the sorrows? It is my opportunity to deepen my trust that she is.
- FOCUS ON WAKING MYSELF. Even if I am basking in the golden temple of all wisdom that will save all humanity, it is still not necessary for me to wake anyone up besides myself. My own waking up process will keep me busy enough for the rest of eternity. Thinking I know what is best for Meredith is tainted within its very nature! Using phrases such as, “I just want to be helpful” or “I don’t want to see you suffer” may certainly sound like care. But a closer look reveals I am only revealing where I must push you for validation of my own life choices. I emphasize that offering an invitation with the four steps detailed above can certainly be inspired. If I get an inspired hit, I’ll follow it. But I haven’t for Meredith. And even if I do, offering an inspired invitation is still a completely different game than the need to wake you up to be more like me so that you can validate how “right” I am.
- EVERY CHOICE AFFECTS THE WHOLE. I was recently led to a teaching by thought leader, Matt Kahn. He reminded me that your physical body and mine are energetically connected to one another. The choices I make for the health of my own body affects the health of the whole. My choices for my liver may not directly affect the outcome of Meredith’s liver cancer on her body. However, as I focus on cleansing toxins from my own body, I send out a ripple effect throughout the collective consciousness. Imagine that in the spring I am planting flowers in a field that you are going to walk through in the summer. Because of my work, the field enjoyed by all is lush with more health and more vibrancy on the planet at large. As Meredith walks her health journey, there is a greater probability of her walking on a field of flowers, and with whomever, she perfectly resonates.
So I don’t try to wake you up. This relaxed way of being has deepened trust in all my relationships and overall has brought me rich liberation and peace.
With love,
Emily Potter
